Oh ho-ho. Interesting topic I'm very delighted to write about. I give myself a pat on the back for having this sudden creative topic come into my mind. Heheh. And I won't be just crapping. I actually DO know these types of girls and am writing thru what I've come across. Yes, all these categories really do exist, I'm not making it up. & that's what makes this entry the more interesting when people I do know (who reads this) would be wondering who I'm actually talking about =P
Surprising how after putting them down into categories, there are actually so many different types of girls who have got different attitudes when it comes to the dating scene. Or rather, when it comes to guys alone.
Guys who're reading this - who knows, you might be able to put this entry into use and know the type of girl you're actually dating =D
I shall be random and write whatever that comes to mind first...and also will include a quote which fits the appropriate category mentioned, if there is one.
And here, I present to you the types of girls that exist in my world alone. More than one category might belong to the same person or one category might be a combination of a few ppl I do know.
This girl might be a naturally shy girl who is not really exposed to the relationship area and does not know how to handle a situation when it comes to a guy. Or she could be the 'other' shy girl who is usually quiet, does not have many friends and is most of the time by herself. Oh, on second thoughts, that's more like a loner so forget about the second point. Anyway, this type of girl would usually be a quiet, sweet girl who just blushes most of the time when around the guy she likes. She has no experience whatsoever and is naive. She only opens up to ppl she trusts and can be quite bubbly once you get to know her well.
The Low Self-esteem
This girl somehow has the concept that she is not good enough for the guy she likes. She has an insecure edge and sometimes might think that she does not deserve the guy because she doesn't match up to him..or prolly cos she thinks the guy deserves someone better than she is. But then, who gets what they want if they think they're not good enough? A low self-esteem will only allow your target to be whisked away into someone else's grasp before you even know it. Be confident, stand tall. You dont have to be perfect in order to think you're good enough for him. The challenge and the fight alone is enough. Instead of having the thought like 'I don't have a chance', have some other thought like 'Everybody's got a chance'. It just depends whether you get it but at least there's still hope. The movie 'Maid in Manhattan' by Jennifer Lopez is a great example. A senator dating a hotel roomkeeper. Worlds apart, but still possible. Altho I havent come across this in real life before but..lol. Everything's possible. After all, the most imporatant part of you will always be what's on the inside.
She can't lose sight of him for more than ten minutes. His phone rings often when she isn't with him and his inbox is filled with her msges. She gets jealous easily when he is around other girls and wants him all to herself. Sometimes she can be like a mother, setting rules for him in the relationship and expecting him to follow them. When he does not, she gets all upset and thinks he doesn't care about her. Which guy would want to be tied down in a relationship filled with "rules" though? If he calls at 8.30 instead of 8.00 like he said he would, she would be distraught until he calls. She knows his daily schedule at the tips of her fingers and always wishes to know his whereabouts every minute of the day. She watches him like a hawk and obliges in everything the guy wants even if it is inconvenient to her. This kind of girl would normally end up alone at the end, as the guy would dump her (unless he loves her too much) cos no guy would want a doormat girlfriend who is obsessed to the max over him.
Every good looking or not too bad looking guy she comes into contact with would be chatted up. This girl is the flirt queen, the one who is good at tossing her hair over her shoulders, batting her eyelashes and flashing a hundred megawatt smile. Oh, and probably touching the person she's talking to once in a while. The works. Tell me if she's got a boyfriend. When Guy isnt around, she turns on full flirt-mode. But when Guy is around, she's an angel and a goody-goody. When out with friends, she's usually the type to gossip about others and who knows the latest gossip. She'd be a fashion freak and is up-to-date with the latest fashion..well, most of the time. Her voice might be honey-coated (for the sweet-flirt) or husky (for the hot-flirt). What's the difference you may ask? The sweet-flirt looks sweet, the hot-flirt looks hot. Easy as A, B, C. The Flirt would always have a bit of an attractiveness in her (whether sweet, hot or in the middle) cos who would flirt when they're not looking good? Common sense.
She doesnt know what she wants. Uh-huh. She might want 5 guys at the same time. But too bad she can only make one choice and have one guy. And that's why she's single most of the time. She can't make decisions when it comes to love prolly cos she can be too cautious...or perhaps she's just afraid to fall in love cos of its responsibilities and being in a commitment. Altho she's sure she likes a guy, she doesn't have courage or confidence in starting a relationship because she wonders what may happen with the relationship. Most of the time, she shrinks away - that explains how she's always single. What The Confused doesnt know is that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
This girl has a big BIG heart. She's nice, she's sweet, and she gives the best she can in a relationship. Once she's taken, she hides nothing when a guy chats her up. While some girls may go along with flirting when Guy isnt around, The Loyal may flirt back, but doesn't show as much interest as she could have. She knows she isn't available and does not cause the other party to think she is still available. To put it in simpler words, she does not lead other guys who are interested in her on. She is faithful to the one who loves her and makes it clear to others who keep pursuing her that she is not interested. She doesnt think about going out on dates with someone else interested in her (what's the point when you're just giving them hope and allowing them to continue hunting you down) and two-timing is not in her vocabulary. Her concept? Treasure the one who loves you for it isn't easy to find a person who loves you.
The independent one is often categorized as a "Good bitch". The BITCH which means 'Babe In Total Control of Herself'. A strong-minded girl who doesn't give a damn about anything going on around her, be it good or bad. She's usually in her own world and hardly cares about what others may think of her. She is strong-willed and is able to go on in life without having to depend on a guy. She places her boyfriend after her friends and does not get terribly crushed when a break up occurs. She picks herself up fast with the thought that everything happens for a reason and moves on quickly, knowing that something else better is waiting for her. She is a girl full of pride and who loves a fight. If a guy breaks up with her, she's not the type to go running back to him. Her motto: "Love is yours when it's meant for you. So give it wings to fly - if it's really for you to keep, it'll fly back to you"...the exact words from the 'Bitch' herself. ;)
'Never make somebody your everything cos when they're gone you've got NOTHING'. This girl TOTALLY needs to have this quote glued to her brain since she always lets herself get hurt over and over again. The total opposite of The Independent, The Needy is one who totally depends on a guy. Worse, she gives a 100% of her heart to a particular guy. She's willing to do anything for her boyfriend, calls and msges him often, has to see him often and puts him as a priority. That's why she gets insanely heartbroken when the relationship ends. She is dependent on love; once a relationship ends and she comes across another guy interested in her, she jumps into it and devotes herself fully to the guy. Relationship ends, totally heartbroken, finds another guy, gets on with it and whole process begins from starting point again. The Needy has part of The Obsessive/Insecure traits in her. She also has a number of boyfriends depending on how long a relationship lasts and how soon she meets another.
This girl is something like The Needy but in a different kinda sense. The Needy is loyal but The Dependent might not be loyal. She is just dependent on love when she has no one else to love. She depends on physical contact in the lovey-dovey sense. Long-distance relationships are not for her, whereas The Needy is able to handle them. The Dependent might be in a relationship even when her heart belongs to someone else, someone she cannot get ahold of. She, just like The Needy, has many boyfriends. When one relationship ends, she jumps into another all for the sake of love and affection. The difference between The Needy and The Dependent is that The Needy devotes herself entirely while The Dependent does/might not. The Dependent gets into relationships as a 'pit stop' before finding 'The One'. A quote The Dependent would need to seriously consider is this: 'Don't hold something in your arms that you could never hold in your heart'.
This version is the "Bad bitch". Unlike The Independent who happens to be the "Good bitch", The Playgirl is a full-on bitch-bitch. She has flings, lots of relationships, two-(three-four-)times for all you know and doesnt give a damn as to whose heart she breaks. She likes to have fun with guys and is a major flirt. Nothing much to say about her and since we all know how they are.... so let's move on.
She has her own expectations when it comes to guys and only looks for a guy who fulfills her list of traits. Looking for a guy is rather time consuming as it is hard to find him. She only allows herself to start a relationship with a guy who has most of what she is looking for. She doesnt fall in love easily but when she does, she cherishes him. She does not simply get on with a guy "for the fun of it" even if it means to try out the relationship with someone she might like. She totally makes sure she really likes a guy before getting on with him. She seeks long-term relationships whereby her boyfriend could possibly end up her husband. That makes her single most of the time until she comes across someone worth considering.
The title says it all. She enjoys attention. In fact, she may enjoy receiving attention from someone else other than her boyfriend that she hides the truth in order to get the most out of both worlds. She loves being showered with gifts and warms up to guys who make her feel special. But what The Attention-Seeker needs to know is that 'If you find somone else in love with you and you dont love him, feel honoured that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return, do not take advantage, do not cause pain'.
This girl has her way. She dominates the relationship, her boyfriend adores(/worships?) her to the max and gives her anything and everything she might wish for. She is spoiled rotten and sometimes takes it for granted. She has an aura of power(?) and charm and is intelligent in certain ways...the manipulative ways of course. Usually her boyfriend respects her and showers her with lots and lots of gifts. Most of the time, her boyfriend doesn't have a say; she does.
That sums up the types of girls who exist.........This is crappy. I feel like i've just written an entire book instead of a blog entry. Hell, it IS long..!! Anyway, to those of you girls who're reading, no offense if you may think any of those categories happen to suit you and that I'm writing about you (but then I actually am that's why it's said to be types of girls i know)...But even if they do get to you, it's a fact so don't get mad..Be a sport...? It's just a blog after all..You can kill me later if you think it's you I'm actually talking about. =D
ANd if you're wondering which am I, I'll just be honest and let you know, my categories arranged according to 'strengths'. Lol. Here goes..The Loyal, The Choosy/Future-Seeker, The Confused, The Needy. But these, I'm not totally sure. The ppl who know me well would be able to tell. Ask them instead. & that's enough for today. More than enough.