the 11 guymandments.

ahaa. am finally back with an update after a long long time. Since friends are leaving one by one and there's nothin much to do anymore, i decided to get on with the "you've been tagged, list 8 things you'd want in yr lover" or somethin like that (tagged by ee lin). But then, i just couldnt be bothered following the rules & stuff so i thought i'd just do it my own way and not bother tagging others or watever. Just too much trouble. =P

SO yeh.

The 11 things I want in a guy

1. A family oriented guy. Most guys who are family oriented will treat their girl much better if compared to some guy who doesn’t care bout his family. Who knows, if I get married to this kinda guy he’d be good at some housework from helping his mom out?? A family oriented guy would also be more caring and life would just be much better after marriage. (yeh I’m askin myself why I included so many ‘marry-ish’ words..).
2. He must not be a coward in expressing emotions or be prideful. The guy I want needs to be able to express his emotions. Not overboard though. To the extent that he can tell me what he thinks/feels at given circumstances. He won’t be that kinda guy who would act as a totally different person in front of his friends. I want that guy who isn’t afraid of PDA (Public Display of Affection). But then again, not overboard. The most important thing of all is that he’s able to admit his mistakes & apologize. He’d better lose his pride to the girl he loves & not be that guy who would lose a girl he loves because of his pride. I despise those kinds.
3. a religious guy, preferably of the same faith. Not super holy. As long as he goes to church and prays on normal days, he’s good enough. At least I’ll know there’s a path that ‘lights his way’ rather than if he didn’t have any path at all.
4. I NEED a guy with a sense of humour. After all, laughter is the best medicine. I adore a guy who’d make me laugh all the time. Especially a guy who’d be able to be playful & childish at times, acting cute & throwin a tantrum if I did anything he didn’t like. I somehow love that cos it brings out the ‘child’ in him and it just makes me laugh at how silly-cute they can get.
5. He has to be good in sports, can sing, likes music and plays musical instruments. I don’t know why but these things are just essential. Prolly cos they’re my interests so if my guy has these, we’re able to share my passions. Oh, and he needs to have those naturally. Meaning he shouldn’t go for any training or deliberately start playing different kinds of sports just to become good at them; he needs to be a natural.
6. I want a guy who’s a good listener. Someone who doesn’t mind sitting there while I unload my burden onto him. Hopefully he’ll be a good adviser as well but a good listener’s more important. I want someone who can listen to my stories and share his own stories of the day.
7. A generous guy in heart & with his money is the best. The guy who can be kind and compassionate with others and does charity once in a while. Stingy guys are such a no-no. I want a guy who’s able to spend money lavishly on me. Nah, there’s a difference between loving and spoiling. Spending money lavishly doesn’t need to be “spoiling me”.
8. Hopefully he doesn’t have any bad habits like stuffing his face and overeating, smoking, eating junk food & drinking excess alcohol... yada yada. You get me. Hopefully he’s one who watches after himself & his health. Someone who’s responsible enough to know what he does affects his surroundings and not just himself.
9. I want a guy who is romantic & passionate. It’s a must. Things will always be exciting and married life wont be so dull and boring. He doesn’t havta be romantic in the sense of buying gifts and sweet stuff when I least expect it, but being romantic in the sense that he can do things out of his way for me when I least expect it. All sorts of small insignificant things can be romantic other than buying gifts or having a candlelit dinner.
10. He has to be a provider. A guy with a good & steady career who can provide for the family. That’s where money will be used to go traveling too… and buying a nice furnished home and owning cars like err…….nvm.
11. Last but not least, he’s gotta be a guy who’d love me with all his heart & soul. This means treating me with respect, being loyal and trustworthy. He’d better be one to think twice before doing anything that would hurt me – physically or emotionally. A guy who’d curse often is a no-no especially if he curses ME if I did anything wrong and made him angry. A guy who applies physical pain is even worse. He’s just gotta be someone really human & loving. He needs to be the person who'd do watever it takes to be with me no matter what the circumstance.

Anddddd..after all these 11 things, it seems almost impossible for me to get a guy now. lol. Maybe i should lower my expectations and make my criteria a little less.... strict? But that'll never happen. Maybe that's the reason why i havent dated any other guy up till today, when i could easily manouevre my way around guys and get at least 5 boyfriends by now...

yeh i know im just tlkin big, ignore me. after all self praise is no praise. Or like what someone said, self praise is self confidence ;) lmao.